Thursday, January 28, 2010

Don't Puff Them Up, Build Them UP!

Encouragement. That is such an important part of a parent's role in training and raising up children. You know, you need to encourage your kids to try to do things they are convinced they can't do on their own - like walking, going potty, talking, reading, obeying. There are so many ways we can encourage our children, sometimes it can be a kind word, a smile, cheering, coaxing, even disciplining is a form of encouragement if done properly and used appropriately.

We all want to make sure that we instill a good dose of confidence in our children so that they will be willing to try to do the hard things. The important thing is to make sure we are building them up to prepare them for their futures, and not just puffing them up by making them think they can do something they are not prepared to do. I Corinthians 8:1 teaches, "Knowledge puffeth up, but charity edifieth." We may fill our children’s heads and make them think they can do something because they have a head knowledge, but if we truly love our kids, we will edify or build them by making sure they understand what they are being taught.

If we love our children we will work at edifying them, and not puffing them up. Knowledge is a good thing but it must be presented so that there is a clear understanding - that means teaching children what they need to know at the right time, when they are mature enough to understand and apply it to their lives. When you love your kids, you want to make sure they understand what you are trying to teach them because when they understand what they are being taught they can build on it. If they simply "know" something without understanding - they will have a false sense of security in that knowledge, and when their puffed up egos deflate they will become insecure.

There is a big difference between being puffed up and being edified. Imagine the difference between a play house constructed with a foundation, framed walls, a roof, and a floor - and compare that with an inflatable building. The inflatable building may go up quicker, but once it is unplugged from the force that is inflating it, or if it gets punctured it will fall flat. A constructed building may require more work to get it built, but it will outlast an oversized balloon! Moms, I know that you love your children - take the time to edify them - and it does take time! Don't puff 'em up - build 'em up; you'll be glad you did, and so will your children.

Have a wonderful day.

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