My husband and I have had the privilege of raising four awesome children. All too fast they are all grown, married, and now raising children of their own. I praise the Lord that all of our children are Christians (and 2 of our grandchildren have come to know Christ as their Savior), and are all actively serving the Lord. This post entitled "R" kids is an ingredient list all beginning with the letter "r."
1. Real – be real; your kids will spot a phony in a flash!
2. Relationship – develop a good relationship very early with your children. Talk to them and LISTEN when they talk to you!
3. Request – pray for your children. Phillipians 4:6, “Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
4. Rules – make sure your kids know your rules and understand them. It is okay to teach your children WHY you have the rules you do have. It should not be okay for them to ask “why?” when you tell them to do something.
5. Responsive – be responsive to your children’s needs – physical, social, spiritual, don’t let things slip by, be proactive and do all you can to respond!
6. Respect – teach your children to respect you and all authority and you respect them as well.
7. Responsibility – teach your children that they are responsible for their actions and decisions
8. Requirements – let them know what things you require of them – and do indeed require them!
9. Reassure your children that they can do it and you are behind them! Give them confidence in your love for them, and what they can do through Christ; (all things).
10. Role – have a role in their life – and fulfill your God given role. Study the Bible and pray for the Lord to teach you what your proper place is in your child’s life and then seek earnestly to fulfill it!
11. Reinforce – reinforce what your husband says – if you disagree with him, do it silently and discuss it with him privately. Reinforce what Pastor preaches from the pulpit, reinforce authority.
12. Rigid – sometimes you have to be rigid; some things are just not moveable, make sure your kids understand that and be firm!
13. Reliable – your kids should be able to count on you, and should be taught to be reliable as well – don’t be a flake and don’t let them flake out either!
14. Realistic – with all the rule setting and requirements – be realistic, make rules, requirements, responsibilities match their age and within reason
15. Reach your children – with the Gospel, reach out to your children – when we had a need God came to us so that we could go to Him! “we love Him because He first loved us.” Let them know that while they have never been where you are right now, you were once where they are – don’t forget what it was like to be a child, a teen, a young adult.
16. Regard – meaning to observe closely. Watch your kids, pay very careful attention to their behavior, and note any changes. This can help you to detect or prevent problems. If you really watch them you will be able to tell if there is possible health problem, or if something or someone is possibly harming them, or wrongly influencing them.
17. Refer – to the Bible and make sure your kids know that the Bible is the Final Authority!
18. Recognize that they are very precious treasures. “…the fruit of the womb is His reward.”
19. Reward their behavior. Don’t simply discipline or magnify their bad behavior, reward their good behavior.
20. Restrain – or discipline your children – don’t let them do whatever they want. Train them early to obey and don’t be afraid to “make” them obey.
21. Rear or raise your children – a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.”
22. Release – remember that your kids are really God’s – let them go to do His will!
23. Remember their birthdays, anniversaries, special events...and most of all remember to always tell them you love them.
I love you my precious children...Dan, Jay, Kel, Jon, & Gen, Mary, Dan, Rachel, & Mark, Micah, Brooklynn, Alexis, Dominic, Corban, Ethan, Marissa, Haylie, Jaclynn & Gianna...so very much!