“For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.” Ephesians :32,32. The marriage relationship is likened unto the church’s relationship with Christ. In Revelations: 2:4 “Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love.” In Proverbs 5:18, God commands the husband, “Let thy fountain be blessed; and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.” Knowing all of this, I realize that God does not go for “the honeymoon is over.” I believe that he wants us to keep the love in our marriages new and fresh. Below is a test to see if you have held to your first love or if you showed your husband the best fruit on top while dating only to have him find the sour, green fruit now that you’re married.
1. Do you dress to look nice for your husband now as you once did? (Remember when you were dating the great pains you took to look your best?).
2. Are you sure to have fresh breath for him as you once did? (Remember when you thought you would die if he ever smelled bad breath on you?)
3. Do you still like to do special, nice little things for him like writing love notes or leaving little gifts for him?
4. Are you moody or grumpy? (Remember how hard you worked to keep a sweet spirit and be kind and tender before you were married?)
5. Is he able to come home from work to the girl of his dreams; or does he dream about the girl he once knew in you?
These may seem trivial; I hope not. Anything that you do to keep a spark in your marriage is important. Nothing pleases a man more than knowing his wife is trying to please him. Always remember that there is someone that would like to take care of and please your husband if you don’t. Even the godliest of men can be weak. The women in the work place mostly dress to look successful, they watch their weight and they wear nice clothes; your husband may see ladies that look like that all day…what does he see when he gets home? Don’t dress like a slob and then accuse him of looking at nice looking ladies...look nice for him yourself! My grandmother taught me these things as I was growing up, not only in word, but also in deed and she was happily married for 67 years! Not only will your husband enjoy being treated this way, but you will enjoy it yourself. Remember it is more blessed to give than to receive.