Proverbs 31 – the Proverb about the Virtuous Woman, right? Have you ever considered or realized that this chapter in Proverbs was actually written for a man? Yes, it is King Lemuel that “wrote” this chapter, but he states right off the bat that it is what his mother taught him. She was successful – because her son did not just teach others what he learned, he attributed his knowledge to (or honored) his mother.
1 The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.
2 What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows?
3 Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.
4 It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; nor for princes strong drink:
5 Lest they drink, and forget the law, and pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted.
6 Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.
7 Let him drink, and forget his poverty, and remember his misery no more.
8 Open thy mouth for the dumb in the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction.
9 Open thy mouth, judge righteously, and plead the cause of the poor and needy.
10 ¶ Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
In these verses I believe we find what every mother should teach her son. Here are the seven basic truths that are essential.
His Maker – (verse 1) prophecy is the forth telling based on the truth of God’s Word. His mother told him that what she was teaching him was based on the Word of God.
His Mother – teach your son about your love for him (verse 2) picture a mother considering what she should teach her son – the precious little one that she carried in her womb – the one she has prayed for. She must have been a virtuous woman because as stated Proverbs 31:29-31, her own works (her son and what she taught him) stood as king and told others what his mother taught him. The Holy Spirit inspired the wisdom that she taught her son because God recorded it in His Word. Now, she didn’t teach her son and then tell him to tell it to others – she taught him for his benefit and the Lord was faithful to His Word, so her works (her son) praised her in the gates.
His Might (verse 3)–A man’s strength is in walking with God – but a woman can convince a man to walk with her instead. Think of Adam and Eve. Eve was deceived and took of the fruit – Adam wasn’t deceived, he chose to please his wife instead of God. Think of Samson. Remember when Delilah insisted on knowing the source of Samson’s strength? Each time Samson gave her an answer, she tried to take his strength from him. When Samson told her the truth about himself – he knew that she would cut his hair, thus breaking the vow he had. He chose to give Delilah his strength.
His Manner (verse 3)– his way of life. Teach your son to live right before God and man. Many kings destroyed their lives by choosing to live the wrong way.
The Mocker (verse 4)– "Wine is a mocker and strong drink is raging and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise." Guard the influence that your boys have – wine and strong drink will alter their judgment. Jesus also gave this warning in Jude 1: 17 – 19 “But, beloved, remember ye the words which were spoken before of the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ; How that they told you there should be mockers in the last time, who should walk after their own ungodly lusts. These be they who separate themselves, sensual, having not the Spirit.”
His Mouth (verse 9)– Teach your son to be honest (tell the truth)to pray, and to use his mouth to win the lost souls Jesus died to save - for soul winning.
His Mate (verses 10-31)– Mom, you can teach your son all of the points listed above, but quite frankly if he marries wrong – there will be heartache, and scars. Teach him the importance of choosing the right mate, because a man’s wife should be (other than salvation) his most valuable treasure. What should he look for? Someone that would not try to take God’s place in his heart. She should not be a mocker; she should speak kindly, and be able to keep his confidence. In Proverbs 31:11-31, King Lemuel’s mother describes to her son the attributes of a Virtuous Woman – the kind of woman she wants her son to marry.
It is my prayer that this will be of help to all of you ladies that are rearing your precious sons. And to Genny, Mary and Rachel, thank you for being such wonderful wives to my sons and daughters-in-law to me; and Kellie I am so pleased that you are a virtuous woman - I love you ladies - have a wonderful day.